We’ve taken a step back.
Following a full week of yellows (bad behaviour reports from school) and a really bad therapy session and constant getting yelled at at home for being silly and behaving badly, I got the following e-mail from Ace’s teacher today.
I wanted to email you with some concerns that we are having with *Ace. *Ace is having a very hard time paying attention in class. He is not following teacher directions and is making noises that are disturbing the other children. He is falling out of his seat or laying down on his chair and has to be asked several times to get him to sit appropriately. In the past we were able to turn the behavior around but the past couple of weeks his behavior has gotten worse. It is starting to affect his class work as well. He does not seem to take us seriously when we redirect him. We have taken him off the green team in hopes that he would try and correct these behaviors or at least try to be more aware of his actions but we still see little improvement. Any suggestions you can give would be greatly appreciated. We just wanted to explain his current yellows and removal from the green team.
I’m frustrated that we haven’t made more (or any real) progress where his behaviour is concerned. We’ve tried punishing bad behaviour. We’ve tried talking to him/reasoning with him. We’ve tried rewarding good behaviour. We’ve limited his sugar intake. We’ve tried providing him with more time to run around (to release energy). He gets occupational therapy twice a week. We’ve tried large group (10 kids) and small group (3 kids) therapy.
We do have stretches of what seems to be improvement but then we end up back here. At a place where I have no idea what to do to help my child succeed.
I could try talking to his occupational therapist about this but I don’t know if or how that would help.
He’s not scheduled to see his neurologist until the end of March. Even then, what good does seeing her do? He’s not on any medication and we do not want to put him on any.
Are we doing him a dis-service by not medicating him? Maybe
Would we be doing him a dis-service by medicating him? Maybe
And that’s where we are. I look to the left and I’m scared. I look to the right and I’m lost. I look straight ahead and the fog is too dense to see. I look behind and it’s full of land mines.
Caught in the middle is my Ace. I know he doesn’t like to get in trouble. I know he worries about us getting mad at him. I know he loves getting praise and awards for good behaviour. I know it’s hard for him to always do what he’s supposed to do. I know something needs to happen. I know he can’t go on like this. I know everything we do/try is with his best interest at heart; not what’s easiest for us. I know we haven’t found the right thing yet and I know it makes me sad and fretful.
I guess the only other thing I can say at this point is … *To Be Continued*