He’s failed his science test. Again.
We studied the material.
The two of us – together.
I knew all about populations and habitats and migration patterns and evolutionary adaptations.
HE knew it. He knew all about populations and habitats and migration patterns and evolutionary adaptations.
I really don’t know what else to do. School work doesn’t come easy to him. It takes a lot of effort on both our parts for him to get B’s and C’s. I feel like it shouldn’t be this hard. It’s elementary school.
It’s probably not fair to think like this but I never had to study in elementary school. I got straight A’s anyway.
Is it him? Is he rushing through the tests and being careless?
Is it me? Am I not doing enough, or not doing the right thing, to help him?
When I ask him what the issue is or what will help, he shrugs.
I get more frustrated and more angry.
I spoke with a couple of friends. One is the parent of 2 boys ages, 7 and 10. One is a high school science teacher.
Both basically told me to chill out.
“Remember” she said. “As frustrated as you are, it’s frustrating for him too. No kid WANTS to fail.”
“I’m sorry, I know it’s hard” he said. “Talk to him. Show your concern, not your anger. It could be that something at school is bothering him.”
“The test results don’t reflect his knowledge” she said.
He gave me jokes. Made me laugh. I relaxed.
I have amazing friends.
This morning I sent an e-mail to his teacher. I asked questions and I made accommodation suggestions. We will see what she says. She always responds with something helpful or insightful.
I will keep trying to think of new ideas.
I will implement some of the strategies my teacher friend gave me.
I will not quit. I will be patient. I will talk with him. Turn that shrug into conversation. Together, we will figure out what his best learning style and test taking style is.
We are both supported. It’s a blessing.
He has an entire team of people wanting him to do well and willing to do what it takes to help him.