Newsflash – A person can feel 2 seemingly opposite things AT THE SAME TIME.
I don’t know why we have set up this world to be so black and white. (pun not intended)
Everything now-a-days is this OR that. Check one box.
Do not believe this dichotomy. It is not the truth.
The truth is that for a great many things you can do and feel BOTH, or more than 2 even. The magic word is AND, and it’s real.
You can miss your children till your heart hurts AND still be happy that they are getting to spend time away from you.
You can be personally pro-life AND be pro-choice for other people.
You can have problems AND not broadcast them online.
You can love the summer AND the winter.
You can be a man AND be a feminist.
You can want your own rights protected AND want those same rights extended to others.
You can be mad that one lunatic is trying to start a war with another lunatic AND be entertained by Usher spreading herpes to Quantasia.
You can disagree with a law AND carry out the duties of your job as described by the law AND try to get that law changed.
You can support the police AND want them to treat everyone fairly and justly.
You can love someone AND know they are not good for you so you walk away.
You can have mixed race heritage AND recognize your privilege AND sympathize with the pain that half of your identity experiences.
You can wish if your child/sister/uncle was straight AND support them and their marriage and their rights.
You can want smaller government/less entitlements AND understand that there needs to be room for compassion.
You can love your Church AND want there to be separation between the Church and the State.
You can not understand something AND understand that your lack of understanding doesn’t mean it is invalid.
You can disagree with someone AND fight for their right to have that opinion.
You can love and be a proud citizen of two different countries.
You can enjoy gangster rap AND country AND pop AND jazz AND rock AND show tunes AND swing AND motown AND classical.
You can want your loved one to keep fighting and to let nature takes its course AND understand them wanting to die with dignity at a time and place of their choosing.
Your grief and worries and need for help can be totally valid AND you can be fully aware that there are people who have it worse than you.
You can be a non-smoker AND actually like the smell of cigarettes.
You can love your country and its flag and its anthem and all the success it offers you AND harmlessly protest.
You can be a good football player/actor/student/accountant/doctor/painter AND be socially conscious.
You can love something or someone so deeply that it hurts you to see them not being their best AND so you try to change certain aspects of how they are.
As far as I’m concerned … Here are some of the things you cannot do and get my backing:
Say you love your children but show no interest in anything they do.
Make broad negative claims about an entire group and then say “except you” to the one person you know who is a member of that group.
Want to lose weight but keep eating the same things you ate to get fat while not increasing your physical activity.
Say you are pro-“life” but show no regard for the lives once they are born.
Use words like “pacific” when you mean to say “specific” and not get laughed at.
Abuse your power without expecting people to resist.
Be transgender and want to be treated with respect but then go on Ellen’s show and say you don’t believe in marriage equality because you’re a traditionalist.
Arrogantly tell parents they are wrong and that they should breast feed only or co-sleep or limit screen time or not vaccinate (etc) and expect them to listen to you – Especially if you have no children.
Say you are not racist but forbid your daughter from dating a black man.
Call yourself a good person if you are a provoking, racist, mean-spirited jerk online.
Take food into a bathroom without it being gross.
Expect your children to do as you say and not as you do. (They are watching and learning)
Blame other people for all your problems.
Be a hairdresser but have a bad hair day everyday.
Take take take without giving.
Treat people as though they are beneath you because you make more money than they do and still consider yourself a Christian.
Complain about being broke but everyday you’re at the mall shopping.
Protect a child molester through your silence and carry no responsibility when he molests another.
Excuse away rampant poor behavior with “that’s just how she is” or “he didn’t mean it that way” or “but you kind of brought it on yourself when you …”
Rehabilitate a pedophile/rapist/serial killer.
Be proud of your book smarts but be unwilling to learn something from someone with less letters behind their name than you.
Want me to suddenly become a morning person or to stop singing or to gain a green thumb.
Tell your friends all the problems you have in your marriage then expect them not to hold it against your spouse.
Think you have it all figured out.
*Clearly this list is not exhaustive*