Life On The B Side

Taking all that life throws at us one moment at a time

Sneak Peak October 14, 2018

I have news.  Well, you know how I used to talk about how much I enjoyed my job but I had a long, painful commute?  I’ve given that up and I will start at a new job this week.  It is bitter sweet in that you never know what kind of boss or coworkers you’ll get when you start a new job and I really did like my former ones BUT that drive was simply too much.  90 minutes in the morning and 2 hours to get home.  More than half of that being nothing other than me sitting in traffic.

I will now have a 15 minute commute and I am very much looking forward to the extra time at home.


Last Thursday was my final day of that awful drive.  Actually, it was only half awful because I left early and was home by 4pm.  I picked Jay up from school on my way home and since Ace takes the bus he was there waiting for us.  By 6pm, we’d had dinner and cleaned up, the homework had been done and checked, we’d showered, I’d taken out clothes for the boys to wear the next day and chores had been completed.

It was quite a shock to my system since 6pm is usually the time I’d be getting home.  I almost didn’t know what to do with myself then.  Bed time seemed so far away whereas it’s usually the next step once we’ve done our evening routine.

The boys, realizing they had lots of time left, took off running.  As I lay in bed watching TV (something I NEVER got to do at that time before), I heard them laughing and play fighting and chatting.  They were up the stairs and down the stairs.  They were in the kitchen and they were in their rooms.  They bounded into my room wearing their Halloween costumes and I chased them out.  They came back 🙂

We got to just hang out being goofy and silly and it was really nice.  At 7:15, when they had apparently exhausted their immaginations, they asked if they could get on their electronics.  (They don’t typically get to use them during the week).  I said they could for a little while.


It was such a lovely evening and while I don’t expect that every evening from now on will be like that, I do feel like it gave me a little sneak peak into what I’ve been missing out on and what it will be like soon.


The one downside to this arrangement is that it seems I’ll be the one responsible for preparing dinner since I’ll be the first adult to get home most of the time.  It was kinda nice coming home to a cooked meal every day.

Not THAT nice though.  I’ll take the extra chore of cooking dinner if it means more quality family time.

Wish me luck!


Alone With My Thoughts May 27, 2016

So, sometimes I get a little emo.  It’s just who I am.  I get all into my feelings.

With this new job I have about a one hour commute.  If there’s an accident, which there often is, it can take a good bit longer.  This gives me a lot of time to think.  To overthink is probably a better way to say it.  Again, it’s just who I am.

Yesterday was one of the days that I was alone, in the car, with my thoughts, for a long time.

I thought about my boys – As I so often do.  I love them so damn much.  I worry about them so damn much.

Then I decided that I didn’t really want to be in an emo mood so I wound the windows down and put on some loud  music.  That takes me to a different place.

First up was Barbra Streisand.  Don’t judge me.  Left In The Dark is an awesome song.  I know all the words, every du dum of the drum as she asks her man “And who made the very first move?”.  There’s nothing better than singing along to an awesome song.  One that starts out slow and subdued and builds up to a climax.

Next, I turned to Meatloaf.  Bat Out Of Hell is one of my favourite albums.  I love the theatrics of it all.  The music, the vocals – It’s all so … well … dramatic!

I suppose then it comes as no surprise that in my top 5 of all time fave songs is – Bohemian Rhapsody.  Can we say DRAMA!!!  🙂

None of this is typical of a black girl from the country parts of small island Jamaica.

I have my Dad to thank.  He’s into that stuff.  I started thinking about him.  He’s not ALL bad.  He introduced me to a lot of music that I probably would not otherwise have discovered.  He also got me listening to Howard Stern.  It’s been 20 years since I first began listening to Howard as a passenger in my Dads car and I still listen to this day.

I guess I can appreciate that even though things are what they are now, he did give me those things.

Fathers Day is around the corner.  Everyone is about to post all over social media about how great their fathers are or wish a happy fathers day to their moms who have played both roles.  I’ll be saying neither.

My Grandad was a really good father to me.  He wasn’t the best person ever.  But I was lucky to have had him.  I had a happy childhood and I always felt like I could go to him and he’d be in my corner.  I’ve had to go to him and he was in my corner.  From him I developed a love for big sporting events; Olympics, World Cup etc.  We would watch Miss World and Miss Universe contests and we’d talk about politics.  I’m still into those things; as corny as Miss “Anything” contests are.  He tried to get me to like Westerns but I just couldn’t get into that.

I miss him.


I know the territory, I’ve been around
It’ll all turn to dust and we’ll all fall down
Sooner or later you’ll be screwing around

I won’t do that
No, I won’t do that

Anything for love
Oh, I would do anything for love
I would do anything for love, but I won’t do that
No, I won’t do that


Oh heck – There I go thinking again.  I missed the whole song.  Rewind.  And THIS time, I’ll stop thinking and I’ll actually sing along.