Isn’t that sweet.
You, one of my mothers many sisters, posted that meme on Facebook and I assume you think it’s just lovely and makes you come across as having a good heart and not like a bigot. You probably thinks it’s the perfect mix of compassion and religious integrity. With all the talk of love and not judging and friendship and what not. I mean really, how noble and Christ-like of you to not stand by while we get bullied.
I have questions though.
What does “not supporting homosexual marriage” mean? What does “standing up for your beliefs” look like? Does it mean you would vote “NO” to make it legal? Does it simply mean that you would not attend a homosexual wedding? Does it mean that you would teach your children that someone else’s marriage is less valid or is inferior somehow? Would you allow your children to spend extended time with their cousins who are children of a homosexual marriage? Would my wife and I not be welcome in your home? I just wanna know. Because you see, with all your talk of still being a friend while you “stand up for your beliefs” you are probably being a hypocrite. You, as a Catholic, happen to follow a sector of a religion that does allow pork eating (which I think is fine) – Never mind that there are parts of the bible that prohibit that – But that’s not my point here. I’m not trying to influence which parts of the bible you decide are worth ignoring and which are not. Choose any parts you want to. Just as 7th Day Adventists can choose to focus on the parts that say pigs are unclean (which I also think is fine). As individuals people should be able to choose what they want to eat without the government intervening and without other people putting themselves in a position of power over their rights based on personal religious beliefs.
If you don’t want to socialize with a gay couple I’m actually ok with that. Well, I think it’s dumb, so I’m not necessarily ok with it but I accept that it’s your prerogative. If you want to shelter your children from their lesbian Aunt and her children that’s totally up to you. Would you disown your own son if he told you he was gay and wanted to get married? You could. That would be your choice to make. It would be sad and unfortunate; but it would be your choice.
If you think homosexual marriage should be illegal though – that’s a problem. Believe whatever you want, just don’t impose those beliefs on everyone else. What gives you the right to put yourself in such a lofty position as to decide if it’s alright for another person to get married or not in the first place? It’s no different from white people in 1787 deciding that black people should only be counted as 3/5 of a person when determining political representation.
It’s not ok to make laws for everyone based on religious beliefs of some. Or is it? Would it be right for 7th Day Adventists to make bacon illegal in an entire country and would it be ok for Jehovah’s Witnesses to make it illegal for women, anywhere, to hold any positions of power?
How about for you as a proud Catholic with the alter boy son, to make it illegal for men of all religions to get married because you don’t believe your own priests should marry? If there was a way to make pre-marital sex illegal and punishable by law, would that be acceptable? Wait a second, should divorce be illegal? I’m pretty sure that’s against your Church rules. (Rocks and glass houses and all that). Would it be the right of the government to force the children of non-married people to live with other married family members or in a group home because their biological parents have been sent to prison for breaking the law? And what about birth control? Should condoms and pills be illegal? I’m just asking.
How do you feel about womens rights in strict Muslim countries? I suppose it’s fine with you that Saudi women aren’t allowed to drive and that their girls cannot go to school and that the women are forced to wear bourkas. I mean, after all, their religion tells them that’s how it should be.
If there was such a country where most of the law makers were Scientologists, should they and Tom Cruise cause all psychiatrists to lose their jobs and should all medication that treats mental illnesses be outlawed even for the Christians of said country? Should it be forced upon all people, in a country led by Mormons, that they “go forth preaching the gospel, two by two” because that’s the law as laid out in the Book of Mormon (D&C Section 42: 6)? Or, instead of asking about missionary work, should I ask about the Mormon law which at one point argued for legalized slavery saying God ordained it or the one that forbade mixed-race couples saying blackness was a curse brought down on us as the seeds of Cain? In The Book of Mormon, it literally says, God inflicts a curse of dark skin on the Lamanites when they disobey him and they become white and delightsome when they obey him. How could the entire world not agree to and stick to this? God himself commanded it. God himself banned black people from voting or holding public office. How did we allow Obama (who you support) to become President?
In the Jewish Torah it says that all males should be circumcised and that a widow whose husband died childless must not be married to anyone but her deceased husband’s brother.
Or are laws and restrictions based on religious views, only allowed if they align with YOUR religion? With YOUR holy book?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to trick you or back you into a corner, or even convince you of anything. I am not saying your religion, or any other religion, is bad. I am not knocking anyones beliefs by drawing attention to them here. I go to Church sometimes too. I just want to know, specifically, what your beliefs are. I want to know about things that don’t fit nicely into your cute little meme. Maybe saying “I don’t support” is just your way of saying that when you pray, you pray for God to heal me and my sinning heart. Or for God to have mercy on my soul when I die. That actually wouldn’t offend me at all. Pray away.
I hope you don’t mind all my questions. You put the meme out there so I feel like it’s fair game for me to ask you about it. So, don’t be vague. Tell me where exactly you stand and IF you believe that because of the Church you attend, that qualifies you to infringe upon my rights?
What you say will tell me a lot about who you are and if I want to be a part of your life or not.
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